Another year nominated for the Liebster Award… Another year spent still not entirely sure what it is. This year, though, I’m honored to be nominated by both Adult… Ish and Our Jolly Little Home.
Nothing much has changed about the Liebster Award since I was nominated by Elsie (who’s now blogging at Raising Retro) back in 2016… Except now it appears there’s actually a winner of some sort? This really continues to confuse me; I’ve never understood these things.
But in the Spirit of gratitude I’m playing along once again this year; regardless of my own confusion surrounding such things, I am grateful that someone thought enough of my blog to want to share me with their followers. That means a lot to me, and the least I could do, really, is say thank you and answer a few questions… So to get things started, we’ll focus on the questions posed in Nikki’s nomination!
1. What moves your soul?
I’ve thought about this for a long time and I can only come up with one answer: Beauty- or the aesthetically pleasing nature of things; whether it’s a pretty sunset or flower or bird, well done cinematography, an emotionally moving poem, or unexpected kindness… I’m drawn to anything in the world that has beauty. I get lost in it. It fills me with awe and inspiration, and moves me in a way that nothing else does.
2. Where do you have connection with others happen most?
I’m not entirely sure I understand what this question’s meant to ask, so I’ll refrain from answering it until I’m sure.
3. What does authenticity mean to you?
Authenticity, to me, means a lot of things… It means being accurate, truthful, and not misleading people; it means being true to who you are, your interests, and your beliefs; it means living the conviction of your morals and ideologies to the best of your ability every day- not just when it’s convenient for you to do so.
More importantly, though? To me it means living in a constant state of self discovery, on a never ending quest towards intimate self knowledge; how can one be “authentic”, after all, if they don’t even know who they are or what they believe in the first place?
4. Where is your favorite spot in the whole world?
The Mountains of North Carolina, near the NC-TN border; it’s the only place in the world I’ve visited to date that I would genuinely consider more beautiful than my own state.
5. How do you practice Self Care?
I know this is about how I personally practice Self Care, but I’ve got a bone to pick with the whole concept as it exists in the common understanding of the internet now a days. And that bone is that Self Care is one of those things that’s grossly misunderstood.
From someone with Type II Bipolar Disorder who literally relies on legitimate Self Care methods to continue living: Real, actual, legitimate Self Care isn’t temporary emotional escapism found in the bottom of a pint of icecream, a bathtub, or a glass of wine- and you certainly aren’t practicing it by staying in all day, avoiding responsibility, and being a couch potato.
Real, actual, legitimate Self Care is a lifestyle– not a oneshot activity; it’s a strategic method of living your life every single day, in a way that recognizes and addresses stressors which may trigger negative Mental Health symptoms- and either (appropriately) reducing your exposure to them, or utilizing daily coping mechanisms and rejuvenating tasks to help you negate or lessen their effects.
Real, actual, legitimate Self Care isn’t meant to make you feel good in the short term. It’s meant to facilitate long term mental and emotional health; it’s about being functional and healthy– and the way in which the common internet treats Self Care now-a-days is anything but; its become a buzzword filled with mindless consumerism and materialism more than anything- and that’s incredibly dangerous for those of us who actually need those Mental Health techniques to survive.
6. What is your favorite type of pet?
Cats; hands down, I believe Cats are the perfect pet. Yes, they’re devilish and hard to train. But they’re independent, self sufficient, and intelligent. Perfect for a person whose energy, on any given day, can fluctuate drastically.
7. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
I’ve always tried to be one of those morning people, but I’ll never be one; I’m a night owl, through and through- and have been since I was born, if the stories my parents told are anything to judge by.
8. Apple or Android?
I could care less, either way; I have brands that I love, but absolute brand loyalty is such an incredibly strange concept to me. What matters isn’t who manufactures it, but whether or not it actually does the job it claims to do… That being said: I’m more likely to buy an Android because I can usually buy their items cheaper and they’re more accessible to me.
9. What is your favorite form of exercise?
Ballet, Yoga, Biking / Cycling, and any sort of Outdoor Activity- like Fishing, Camping, Hiking, Rock Climbing, and so on. The one thing you will never find me doing, though, is running; I can’t for the life of me understand why people think that’s fun. But that may just be because I don’t have the physical capability to pull it off.
10. How did you get into this thing called blogging?
I’ve written about that over here before, if you’d like to find out.
I was also nominated by the gorgeous face behind Adult… Ish– making it my second nomination of the year. Since I don’t feel like writing another post on the same topic, though, I’m simply going to combine her questions in with Nikki’s nomination. Thankfully there’s only 5 of them included in her round, but I apologize now for the length of the post… Better go get some tea before continuing!
1. If there was one lesson you could instill in another person, what would it be?
You will be wrong a lot. It will (and does) happen daily. In fact, we as a collective species are usually wrong about shit; information gets updated as we discover more- and sometime you just plain learn the wrong information in the first place; education (formalized or not) isn’t always reliable, even if we like to pretend it is.
There will be times you feel like throwing the towel in because what’s the point, you apparently don’t know anything anyways. You’ll want to throw the equivalent of a temper tantrum, stick your fingers in your ears, and sing the La La song… But don’t do it… Don’t be that kind of dickbag mcfuckstick. My mom is that kind of dickbag mcfuckstick, and I interact with her as minimally as possible; it’s literally the worst to deal with, and it makes you look like an immature child.
Being wrong isn’t the end of the world. Sure, you feel like an ass for a hot moment. It’s embarrassing… But you’ll get over it in 0.0002 seconds. Hell, you probably won’t even remember it in 10 years- I promise. But you will remember the correct knowledge if you take responsibility for correcting yourself when you figure it out- and that’s a hell of a lot better.
So embrace your inevitable wrongness, because it is inevitable… View your inevitable wrongness as the learning opportunity it is, and take personal responsibility for correcting your flawed or inaccurate knowledge base. Realize the sky did not (in fact) fall on your head the second you admitted you were wrong (and that peoples respect for you has probably increased)… And then promptly move on with your life.
2. What is one quote you live by?
I don’t. Most inspirational or other quotes are usually taken out of context. More than that, most have also been modified or are attributed to the wrong sources- making it difficult to track down said original, source, and context necessary to fully understand their meaning… So while I like certain quotes and think they may contain legitimate inspiration or advice? There’s nothing I’d be comfortable legitimately saying I live by.
3. People say that first impressions are everything; what do you hope people take away after meeting you?
I stopped caring what assumptions people made about me, or the impressions I give them, a long time ago. The fact of the matter is you can actively work to portray yourself a certain way until you’re broken and bent and blue in the face… But in the end it doesn’t matter. You’ll never be able to control how people see you, or the assumptions they make about you. So why bother at all?
Those who are intelligent and willing to look past first encounters, gut reactions, and knee jerk prejudices, will stick around to learn more in order to develop a legitimate opinion of you that takes your whole being into account… Those who don’t? Probably don’t matter anyways.
4. What is one thing that will undoubtedly turn a bad day around for you?
My Husband; unless I’m in the deepest throws of my Depression (which is admittedly rare these days), he can always drag me out of whatever funk I’m in. I love it, too, because he knows just the right way to handle my insanity at any given point- whether that’s a blanket fort and some cuddles, or a stern talking to about how I’m being an unnecessary ass.
5. If you could have any animal in the world, like even a chinchilla, what would it be?
Most people would probably say something exotic here, because who doesn’t dream of some crazy exotic pet, right? But you’re probably looking at one of the only people on the planet who would bypass every other animal in existence for what is perhaps one of the most common and mundane pets in the history of human civilization: The majestic, independent, complete fucking asshole that is the Domestic Cat.
I’m the walking, talking epitome of the crazy Cat lady. I fucking love cats. I would have a thousand of them if I could. Sadly, my Husband has limited me to three (rude).
This year I think I’ll refrain from nominating anyone; if you’d like to check out a few blogs that I do love, they’re always listed in my sidebar to the right of your screen.
And there you have it! Liebster complete. Thank you to Nikki and Adultish for nominating me and asking these questions… Even if I still don’t understand the Award’s purpose, it’s nice to know you thought highly enough of me to think I’m deserving of it. I look forward to getting to know you both better- and to reading your other nominee’s answers!
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